Month: April 2014

Eat.Sleep.Read.Repeat

The 4 things we do whilst studying for finals. Ah, what a bittersweet week. The Final Stretch. How can summer seem so close, yet so far away at the same time?

Between all this chaos, I wanted to take the time to remind my college readers: You’re almost there!! Give it your all. And if you’re just having a stressful week in general, this will apply to you as well.

I have compiled the 3 most important things to remember during this time of year to keep yourself sane:

1. BREATHE. It is going to be OK. Don’t push yourself to the point of frustration and no return. This will exhaust you as the week goes on. Instead, pace yourself, and remain calm.

2. Take it one day at a time. Yes, sometimes I find myself putting studying off by just reminding myself how much studying I have to get done. This automatically freaks me out and kickstarts a cycle of procrastination. But I’ve found out that by breaking things up- home works, sample exams, and reading the text, things look a little less intimidating and become easier to tackle! However, everyone has their preferred method of revising, so if this doesn’t necessarily work for you, find a routine and stick to it till the end!

Wise words from the man himself

Wise words from the man himself

3. Have a pre-study ritual!I promise you, this works. For example, I will usually get into some comfy clothes, make myself some tea, gather everything I may need to go to town on this study sesh so that I dont need to get up 100 times, and eliminate distractions. If I am at home, I will usually take a break every half hour for 10 mins to grab a snack, relax, and refocus. Create a routine that will help you get into the study mood by doing things that motivate you and make you feel better.

I hope this helps! Let me know of some effective studying tips, I could use a few! Good luck on finals week. May the curve be ever in your favor 😉

Bisous ❤

-SH

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Refresh, Re-evaluate, Reset

Happy Monday friends! ❤

I hope you had an overall successful week last week and are ready to tackle this one!

Sooo…for today's Motivation Monday, I have a challenge for you!
I want you to pick a day out of the week, perhaps a day where you have some time on your hands (a weekend?) and choose that day from here on out to Refresh, Re-evaluate, and go into Reset mode for the upcoming week. Make that day a regular happening in the week.

What do I mean by Refresh, Re-evaluate, Reset?

Refresh: Take the time to do something that will refresh your mind, it can be to read a book you’ve been keeping up with, or to put some effort into one of your hobbies. Doing something you like and something that is personal (and not because you have to) will have you feeling refreshed for sure!

Re-evaulate: Take a look back on the past week, see if you’ve accomplished your objectives/goals that you had previously set out to achieve. Take some time to reflect on what you took away from the previous week and if there was anything you could have done differently. Then, make a set of objectives/goals for next week that you wish to accomplish. Of course, this all does not have to be mechanical. Everyone has their own style in getting things done and planning out their week. This is merely just an “inspirational framework”, if you will.

Reset: After your goals are set, and time for reflection has been made, your mind will automatically go into a “reset mode” for the week. For example, my day is Sunday. I call my Sundays “Reset mode Sunday.” It’s the day where I do some reading, plan out my next week using my planner, finish some last minute assignments, and spend time with my loved ones. At the end of the day, I get this “reset mode” feeling, where I am ready (not dreading) to tackle the upcoming week and make the most out of it.

Yes you do!

Yes you do!

Hope this helps! Let me know if you practice similar methods, I would love to hear it!

Bisous,

-SH

The Art of Confrontation

“You’re about to confront someone.
You’re nervous.
You’re sweating.
You’ve rehearsed everything you wanted to say and it sounds fantastic.
You approach that person, and suddenly you feel butterflies in your stomach and you start forgetting everything you rehearsed.
Confrontation ends.
You feel frustrated for not saying everything you wanted.
As you walk away, you start remembering the things you’ve rehearsed.
You start coming up with points you should have made.
Damnit!”

A little fun fact about this common phenomenon

A little fun fact about this common phenomenon

This was my thought process not too long ago and I’m sensing that I’m not alone in this (I hope not!)
Confrontation can be a difficult thing to many people. I, for one, used to dread (and still sometimes do)confrontations with people, especially ones I was not particularly comfortable with. I even had a hard time confronting people who I WAS comfortable with.

To put it bluntly, I just hated it.

Very often when you are confronting a person about something that has been bothering or upsetting you, and if like me, you hate them, your nerves get the best of you and you eventually lose the point you’re trying to make. The reason why I call it an “Art” is because it takes a lot to confront someone in a civil and polite way, understand each other, get your points across, AND come to a conclusion on the issue at hand.

But confrontation is an important thing to do when necessary, as it is a sign of maturity. It is also a great communication tool. As you get older, you will have to confront people at your work place, family members, friends, S/O, etc. And as much as you hate having them, you will be thanking yourself later.

Confrontation

Gone are the days of being tacky, high school-like, catty, gossipy and nervous to confront people with something that bothers you. In this post I will lay down some tricks that will have you become a pro at confrontations in no time!
What you need to do/know before you confront someone:

Confronter=you Confrontee=person you’re confronting

1. Try to do it in person. If time/location prohibits you to do so, then e-mail is fine. I don’t personally believe in text/internet confrontations because you lose that personal connection and often many things that are said can be misinterpreted which can lead to bigger issues.
**If it is a business/formal confrontation, having it written (like e-mail) is usually best. This makes it recorded and avoids “he-said she-saids” If you can, try to do both in person/written ones**

2. Be confident, do not let the nerves get the best of you! If you’re at fault, own it. If you feel that the confrontee is at fault, express your concerns in a calm and civil way. This will make them more comfortable and susceptible to opening up to you and treating you in the same way. 🙂

3. Listen to the confrontee and give them time to speak. Just as you want your voice to be heard, they want theirs to be heard as well. If something needs clarification on their part then DEFINITELY let them speak! Don’t ramble on about yourself and how you feel without giving them room to say anything. Chances are, they will get frustrated with you and it may not end well.

4. Make sure you are calm and in a good place before approaching them! Especially if it’s regarding a heated issue. Too many times I have confronted people out of anger and it did not end well. You say things you don’t mean and usually get crazy eyes(or maybe that’s just me? Yikes!). Acting on impulse is the worst thing you can do for yourself. Make sure you give yourself enough time to let things settle and simmer before you approach them. This is probably the hardest thing to do, but practice makes perfect.

5. Be willing to compromise and be accountable for things you said/did. Yes you feel certain things for justified reasons, and yes you are on a mission to express those feelings but at the end of the day communication is a two-way street. In order to solve something you must be willing to compromise and take responsibility. Of course this is easier said than done but you gotta give your ego a break sometimes!

Follow these 5 tips and you’re golden. And also remember at the end of the day, we’re all human. You’re not perfect. The other person isn’t perfect. But you’re all human, so cut them some slack when need be and don’t sweat the small stuff. Pick your “confrontations” (because they’re not battles lmao) and you’ll be set.

I hope this helps and puts things into perspective! Do you guys have any other tips/tricks on confrontations? Or perhaps an instance where you lost it/maintained perfect poise and composure? I would love to hear your advice and experiences!

Bisous

-SH

Inhale The Sun, Exhale The Storm

Salut!

I apologize for posting so late, I usually try to have my Motivation Mondays up early in the day to give you that boost of energy to start off your day and carry on to your week! Hopefully this post will make up for it. 🙂

So lately, the weather in Florida has been great. Surprise, surprise, I know. But no really. Sunshine all around, minimal humidity, and great tanning weather! I’ve been studying for exams out by my pool every chance I get because I don’t want to miss out on all that sunshine. Like many people, I find great weather to affect my mood. Big time. Whenever it’s sunny, I can just feel that I am going to have a wonderful productive day. If I can’t be outdoors, I will usually open all my windows and curtains to let the sun drench my room/apartment.
A bright atmosphere will make way for an even brighter day.

Today, and everyday.

Today, and everyday.

Which is why for my Motivational Monday segment this week, I thought I would relate this great weather with a positive attitude. Inhale the sun, exhale the storm. Winter has passed. Or at least for most places, the harsh winter has passed! Use the spring, serene, and fresh weather to help you channel all your positive energy.
Focus on the good, ignore the bad, look forward to the best.
Join me as I try to approach this week with a bright and positive attitude!

Remember that everyday is a new chance to be the best and brightest version of yourself. 🙂

Bisous,

SH

Lazy Makeup

My “I’m going to class and don’t feel like putting on makeup but I will anyways” makeup.

These are the 4 essentials I use when I’m going to class and don’t feel like putting on makeup. Quick, fresh, and light!

Also this is not at all any fancy brand makeup. Mostly off the counter makeup I buy from Target. #noshame

They are as follows:

1. Around the eye concealer -Maybelline
2. “The Falsies Volume Express” mascara -Maybelline
3. “True Match” light bronze blush -L’oreal
4. “Moxie” soft pink lipstick-Bare Minerals (which usually wears off after having my coffee so I’m not sure why I put it on the list)

My lazy makeup kit

My lazy makeup kit

This combo will have you looking natural and fresh 5 minutes after you roll out of bed. 😉

No one will ever know what kind of night you had heh.

No one will ever know what kind of night you had heh.

What’s your favorite on-the-go combo? Share below ❤

Bisous

SH

Rich Life

And no, I do not mean money-wise rich, ya big sillies!

For this motivation Monday segment, I want you to take some time to reflect on what it means for you to live a rich life. What do you want it to mean for you?

Although having money and being that kind of “rich” doesn’t buy happiness, it sure as hell makes it a whole lot easier to be happy, and I understand that. But aside from that, having a rich life can mean many things, depending on the type of person that you are.

#nocaption

#nocaption

For example, having a rich life for me means to have as many adventures, experiences, ups and downs as I can. It doesn’t necessarily correlate with good things only. It simply means living life prepared to feel a full spectrum of emotions. And that takes a lot of courage. You don’t have to travel the world in 80 days or make millions of dollars to experience these things. Depending on who you are, it can be something as small as going to the sale rack at Zara and finding that top (in your size, bam!) you’ve always wanted to buy but was out of your price range. It could also be a breakup. Or you could have went on a summer Euro trip. The feels that come along with those experiences trigger certain emotions that make living life just a little but fuller. If we always had good times then these experiences would be worthless and meaningless to us. If you experience bad times, then when the good eventually comes along, you’ll automatically appreciate it more and know how valuable these feelings are. This is what it means to live a rich life for me.

A life full of experiences is worth SO much more than sitting in a million dollar house with none at all. I’ve had so many ups, downs, and changes in my life but as I look back, I’m realizing how much I learned and am still learning along the way. I look forward to this roller coaster called life and I’m ready to take on the next big thing!

So tell me, what’s your definition of a Rich Life?

Bisous

-SH

The Ultimate Boss Ass B*tch Guide

What I’m about to say is partly for laughs, partly serious. I assume you’ll be able to tell what I mean, when I mean it!

In this post, I will be providing you with the low down on what it means to be a B.A.B and what it takes become one. I myself try to follow these guidelines as best as I can. They not only classify you as a B.A.B but they also help you practice what are considered to be honorable qualities in our society. They also help you become a more refined version of yourself.

Alas, I have put together a quick guide on the essentials of being a B.A.B.
Being a B.A.B is not just an attitude, it’s a lifestyle. To become a B.A.B, you will need to practice 3 fundamental things:

1. A “no bullsh*t/zero tolerance attitude.” (be careful to not cross the line with being a bitch though)

2. A “kill them with kindness” motive.

3. A classy and graceful demeanor. You also know what you want and you don’t care what people think about it/you. A triple threat right there.

21st birthday present from the roomie. Perfect morning inspiration mug

21st birthday present from the roomie. Perfect morning inspiration mug

Of course, these are just the basics, but you gotta start somewhere, right? These are the tools you will need to start this transformation. How often you practice them will determine your true B.A.B status. Let’s get down and dirty:

1) Having a “no bullshit/zero tolerance attitude” does not necessarily translate into you being a bitchy, mean person. It’s actually encouraged to refrain from doing so (see #3). It simply means that you will not put up with people’s BS, their fake-nice attitude, and you will most certainly not engage in backstabbing activities with these type of people. Hence the saying “a person who talks about people to you, will talk to those same people ABOUT you”?
Yes. So please remove yourself from these situations and refrain from digging yourself into a hole you can’t get out of. There is obviously a difference between friendly banter with your friends and poking fun at each other. I’m talking nasty and grimy gossip, back stabbing, rumor spreading, shit talking type of people. That has got to go.

2) A “Kill them with Kindness” motive is also related to #1. Actually, they’re all related to each other. This mostly plays with how you handle certain situations and certain types of people. Dealing with confrontations in a civil way is of utmost importance. Whether it be in the workplace, college, school, or home. If you come across people who behave towards you in a negative manner, retaliating and stooping down to their level will make you look bad in the long run. A B.A.B should always behave in a civil manner, even if the feels are not reciprocated. That’s actually when you become stronger. You become in full control of yourself and you truly embody a Boss Ass Bitch. At that point, give yourself a round of applause, a pat on the back, and get yourself a drink. Being nice to nasty people is easier said than done. Your “haters” are the ones who you should be the nicest to even though you’d rather be socking them in the face. Don’t forget to maintain a balance and not turn this into being fake and pretentious. Just be a civil, genuine you. People will be like “damn that’s a nice ass, genuine person. What a boss ass bitch.”

3) Be classy. Always. Being classy and handling things with grace is what ties everything together with a bow AND puts the cherry on top of being a B.A.B. Having respect for yourself will almost demand respect from people around you. But you probably already know that. You gotta have your own style, know what you want, and how to get it. And even if you don’t know what you want; own it. Fake it till you make it. Pretend like you have it in order to get it, that’s what a true B.A.B will do. Now I’m not telling you to pretend you’re rich because that’s whats going to make you rich; I mean you have to exude a type of confidence that pertains to your personality. What I’m trying to say is, having class can go a long way.

As you can see above, all these rules require a balance. Too much of something can go against you.

“Good things happen to people who hustle” and B.A.B are definitely hustlers. Classy Hustlers.

With that being said, these are the tools you will need that will get you on your way to becoming a Boss Ass Bitch. Other things might include; being independent (emotionally and/or financially), hard-working, and humble. These things will come naturally as you start practicing the 3 rules I mentioned above.

Combine the 3 rules, add on your personality, flare, and style and congratulate yourself. You’ve become an elite member of the Boss Ass Bitch community.

Questions?Comments? Share below!

Bisous

-SH

Hipster Water

Also goes by detox water. I’ve been seeing this on every social media platform, it’s almost ridiculous. To get to the bottom of this and see what all this hype was about, I decided to try it a few days ago. I skimmed through a few articles regarding detox water and found a mix I could potentially like. I cut up lemons, limes, cucumbers, strawberries, and mint and poured it in a pitcher full of water overnight.

Fruit family

Fruit family

Upon experimenting, I came across a few conclusions/realizations. They are, in no particular order, as follows:

1. Does it taste as good as it looks? Eh, not really. It tastes like lemony water with a hint of mint.
2. It IS a refreshing drink to have in the morning or on a hot summers day, as far as lemony water goes.
3. Would I try it again? Maybe. Only because it helps cleanse your body (broadly speaking).
4. Its pretty overrated.

Yes they look super trendy and hip on Pinterest and all, but the truth is that it’s just lemony water with great marketing. Not saying that its bad or anything but it doesn’t deserve the hype that it’s getting. It’s probably better to consume the actual fruit and water separately. However, if you want to substitute plain water for detox water (not fruit for detox water) then yes, this is beneficial to have in your daily intake of water to stay hydrated with a little bit of spark. This is all my personal opinion though. I would love to hear yours!

Do you have a different blend you recommend me trying that will alter my perception of Hipster Water? Share below!

Bisous
-SH