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Rich Life

And no, I do not mean money-wise rich, ya big sillies!

For this motivation Monday segment, I want you to take some time to reflect on what it means for you to live a rich life. What do you want it to mean for you?

Although having money and being that kind of “rich” doesn’t buy happiness, it sure as hell makes it a whole lot easier to be happy, and I understand that. But aside from that, having a rich life can mean many things, depending on the type of person that you are.

#nocaption

#nocaption

For example, having a rich life for me means to have as many adventures, experiences, ups and downs as I can. It doesn’t necessarily correlate with good things only. It simply means living life prepared to feel a full spectrum of emotions. And that takes a lot of courage. You don’t have to travel the world in 80 days or make millions of dollars to experience these things. Depending on who you are, it can be something as small as going to the sale rack at Zara and finding that top (in your size, bam!) you’ve always wanted to buy but was out of your price range. It could also be a breakup. Or you could have went on a summer Euro trip. The feels that come along with those experiences trigger certain emotions that make living life just a little but fuller. If we always had good times then these experiences would be worthless and meaningless to us. If you experience bad times, then when the good eventually comes along, you’ll automatically appreciate it more and know how valuable these feelings are. This is what it means to live a rich life for me.

A life full of experiences is worth SO much more than sitting in a million dollar house with none at all. I’ve had so many ups, downs, and changes in my life but as I look back, I’m realizing how much I learned and am still learning along the way. I look forward to this roller coaster called life and I’m ready to take on the next big thing!

So tell me, what’s your definition of a Rich Life?

Bisous

-SH

The Ultimate Boss Ass B*tch Guide

What I’m about to say is partly for laughs, partly serious. I assume you’ll be able to tell what I mean, when I mean it!

In this post, I will be providing you with the low down on what it means to be a B.A.B and what it takes become one. I myself try to follow these guidelines as best as I can. They not only classify you as a B.A.B but they also help you practice what are considered to be honorable qualities in our society. They also help you become a more refined version of yourself.

Alas, I have put together a quick guide on the essentials of being a B.A.B.
Being a B.A.B is not just an attitude, it’s a lifestyle. To become a B.A.B, you will need to practice 3 fundamental things:

1. A “no bullsh*t/zero tolerance attitude.” (be careful to not cross the line with being a bitch though)

2. A “kill them with kindness” motive.

3. A classy and graceful demeanor. You also know what you want and you don’t care what people think about it/you. A triple threat right there.

21st birthday present from the roomie. Perfect morning inspiration mug

21st birthday present from the roomie. Perfect morning inspiration mug

Of course, these are just the basics, but you gotta start somewhere, right? These are the tools you will need to start this transformation. How often you practice them will determine your true B.A.B status. Let’s get down and dirty:

1) Having a “no bullshit/zero tolerance attitude” does not necessarily translate into you being a bitchy, mean person. It’s actually encouraged to refrain from doing so (see #3). It simply means that you will not put up with people’s BS, their fake-nice attitude, and you will most certainly not engage in backstabbing activities with these type of people. Hence the saying “a person who talks about people to you, will talk to those same people ABOUT you”?
Yes. So please remove yourself from these situations and refrain from digging yourself into a hole you can’t get out of. There is obviously a difference between friendly banter with your friends and poking fun at each other. I’m talking nasty and grimy gossip, back stabbing, rumor spreading, shit talking type of people. That has got to go.

2) A “Kill them with Kindness” motive is also related to #1. Actually, they’re all related to each other. This mostly plays with how you handle certain situations and certain types of people. Dealing with confrontations in a civil way is of utmost importance. Whether it be in the workplace, college, school, or home. If you come across people who behave towards you in a negative manner, retaliating and stooping down to their level will make you look bad in the long run. A B.A.B should always behave in a civil manner, even if the feels are not reciprocated. That’s actually when you become stronger. You become in full control of yourself and you truly embody a Boss Ass Bitch. At that point, give yourself a round of applause, a pat on the back, and get yourself a drink. Being nice to nasty people is easier said than done. Your “haters” are the ones who you should be the nicest to even though you’d rather be socking them in the face. Don’t forget to maintain a balance and not turn this into being fake and pretentious. Just be a civil, genuine you. People will be like “damn that’s a nice ass, genuine person. What a boss ass bitch.”

3) Be classy. Always. Being classy and handling things with grace is what ties everything together with a bow AND puts the cherry on top of being a B.A.B. Having respect for yourself will almost demand respect from people around you. But you probably already know that. You gotta have your own style, know what you want, and how to get it. And even if you don’t know what you want; own it. Fake it till you make it. Pretend like you have it in order to get it, that’s what a true B.A.B will do. Now I’m not telling you to pretend you’re rich because that’s whats going to make you rich; I mean you have to exude a type of confidence that pertains to your personality. What I’m trying to say is, having class can go a long way.

As you can see above, all these rules require a balance. Too much of something can go against you.

“Good things happen to people who hustle” and B.A.B are definitely hustlers. Classy Hustlers.

With that being said, these are the tools you will need that will get you on your way to becoming a Boss Ass Bitch. Other things might include; being independent (emotionally and/or financially), hard-working, and humble. These things will come naturally as you start practicing the 3 rules I mentioned above.

Combine the 3 rules, add on your personality, flare, and style and congratulate yourself. You’ve become an elite member of the Boss Ass Bitch community.

Questions?Comments? Share below!

Bisous

-SH

Classy, Versatile, and Insightful

“Classy,Versatile, and Insightful.”

Those are the three words that I would like people to use when describing me.

For the first motivational Monday segment, I wanted to inspire you to think of three words that YOU want people to use when describing you. These words can be things you are striving to be, or things you already believe that you are.

To dive deeper, think of three words that you DON’T want people to use when describing you as well.

Three things that I do not want people to use when they describe me?

“Insincere, cynical, and malicious.”

Share your thoughts below on what your favorable/unfavorable words are!

And don’t forget, Mondays are YOUR days. 😉

Bisous

-SH

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