Different Feels: Culture Clash vs. Culture Infusion

I know, I know…just lay it on me! Guilty as charged for not posting for a long time. The truth is, I’ve been going through a tough time, which has made me anxious to blog. However, I have realized that I should embrace the things that I like to do as opposed to push them away in times of need. So here I am 🙂

Part of what I wanted to talk about today is a mixture of relating to people, feeling the need to get along with everyone, and catching yourself between a culture clash. Or should I say culture infusion?

When I first moved to America about 3 years ago, I wanted to go to college and go back to what was home (Middle East) at the time. A few years later, I’ve come to realize that this has become more and more home for me. I have gained so much in just a few years (besides almost having my Bachelor’s Degree.) I met incredible people whom I am blessed to call my second family, I’m lucky to have an awesome job, I fell in love, and I never felt so out of my comfort zone in my whole entire life.

Yes. The funny thing is that the more that I live here, the more that I realize that although I do have somewhat of a westernized mentality, there are so many more things that I have learned about myself being here that go back to my roots, values, and culture (religion being set aside.) I thought I was living through a major culture clash, but now I am finding out that it is more of an infusion of cultures. I am embracing my past and my present and merging them together. I am taking the good from both of my backgrounds and making my own set of beliefs, ideals, and values.

I have always thought I was a naturally curious person, my family calls me “too curious” which is not even a thing I’m pretty sure. It’s part of the reason why I moved here, because I was curious about the world, wanted to learn, experience, and adventure at the same damn time! So my curiosity took me here, to Florida, where I learned and still am learning so much about myself through ways I never thought I would.

How, you ask? For many of you, you may not be able to relate (story of my life) but it’s really the little things that make you think. For example, I don’t get most of the American sayings that they use here. What the hell is “take it with a grain of salt” ??? I still to this day don’t know what that means, most of the times I just nod and give a little “heh” when someone says something I don’t understand, to hide my confusion lol. I also have a lot of language gaps (i.e limited vocabulary, grammar sometimes, etc.) Even though I don’t speak with an accent, it’s still kind of my second language. Many times its just me not being able to relate to people, their lifestyles, childhoods, and little norms that I never had while growing up.

This makes it hard, to this day, to relate to people and reach common ground. Sometimes it feels awkward and uncomfortable, as I don’t fit in 100% with people here or back home. The weird part is that even when I’m home, I also find myself feeling different (culture wise, personality wise, etc.) I have a lot of opinions, my Middle Eastern ones are highlighted in America, and my American ones are highlighted in the Middle East. Weird, right? I’m basically like a culture milkshake. Yum. As a result, I used to feel insecure to be different and basically paranoid because I would be thinking “omg these people think I’m just this foreign weirdo. Just stop being yourself, and remove yourself from the situation.”

Now I am beginning to realize “umm I’m actually pretty badass. I am well-traveled, educated, love diversity. So what if this makes me a little different?” What I’m trying to say is, it’s okay if you ever feel like you can’t relate to people, the whole point isn’t to make yourself likable to everyone. It’s OKAY if you don’t have things in common with every single person you meet, and most of all, its OKAY to be yourself at all times, in fact, its encouraged. 🙂 Even if that means some people may not like you, that quite alright. Don’t ever feel like you need to change yourself to be able to relate to others. That defeats the whole purpose of being yourself. If anything, being immersed somewhere outside your comfort zone makes you learn the most about yourself.

Be yourself

I like to be goofy, tell jokes, and do silly things. However, I also enjoy politics and discussing public affairs. Then again, I enjoy reading, shopping, and manicures. I love diversity, learning about different cultures, and having an open mind. Even though I don’t fit in to a specific category of being “from” somewhere, that’s ok. I kind of like it, it makes me feel connected to the world in general and fits into my curious nature. At the end of the day, it’s not where you’re from that counts, it’s what you make of yourself using your past, present, and future. And if people want to judge, then let them have at it, because at least you’re being true to yourself. So embrace it! I know I am. 🙂

I hope you enjoyed this piece, and I hope this inspired you to embrace your background just as it is and to continue being the you-est of you!


-SH ❤


Island Adventures


It’s been a minute my fellow readers..this is partly my fault for being so MIA but I promise I’m back! Bearing gifts hehe. The last few weeks has been one crazy adventure after the other, but I managed to snap a few bits and pieces of the ride on my first travel post! This is also my first time experimenting with my new DSLR Philippe! (one of the photos was with an underwater disposable cam), so any feedback and/or tips would be greatly appreciated. 🙂

(P.S All photos are unedited/un-retouched)



SH ❤

Leaving Tampa


Sunrise in Full Swing

Sunrise in Full Swing

And off we go!

And off we go!

So Colorful!

Pink Buggy!

Beautiful Cozumel

Beautiful Cozumel


Crystal clear waters..

Crystal clear waters..



Ocean fun!

Ocean fun!




The Clearest of Waters

The Clearest of Waters

Sunset at Paradise

Sunset at Paradise

The Carnival Paradise

The Carnival Paradise


Squeeze A Summer’s Day!

Summer is finally upon us! Raise your hand if you’re as excited as I am. *raises hands*

With a new season, new goals will be set. Priorities are re-prioritized, and objectives are re-evaluated.

Especially this summer, where some of us who are in college may be looking to work more, or take summer classes, or just graduated and looking for a job, there will be a shift in your daily routine and you will eventually ease into a new one. To make this transition as productive and smooth as possible, I’ve compiled a set of objectives you should set for yourself. I for one, am going from taking 5 classes in the spring to taking 1 online class this summer. I’ve been trying to figure out how to fill up this free time by setting new goals and things that I would like to get done this summer. So here’s some stuff I’ve been working on that would be of use to you:

1. Pick up or continue a hobby. I’ve decided to explore photography as a hobby this summer and I’m looking forward to buying a new professional camera! Hopefully I’ll be able to learn how to use it before the summer ends, haha.

2. Spend some time outdoors. You know what this means: beach weather! If you live in a sunny place like I do (yay Florida!) being in the sun will be the easiest thing to relax yourself but also have goddess-like sun kissed skin(yasss). If laying under the sun for hours is not your cup of tea, which I totally get, try out outdoorsy activities like kayaking, hiking, etc. This is a double whammy as you will be active AND will get some sun. Work it! I usually like to be under the sun with a good book. Speaking of books, my second book review will be coming out soon, so stay tuned!

3. Make a list of things you want to achieve by the end of the summer (example, save x amount of cash, find a job, learn how to play the violin.) Going back to #1, my goals are to learn how to use a camera professionally, and look for post-grad jobs. Yikes.

4. Maintain a balance. Although bumming it under the sun all summer sounds like heaven, you still gotta stay on your hustle and get things done! But who’s to say you cant do it all the Boss Ass Bitch way? No one. So have fun, try new things, get shit done!

With that being said, I will be taking a short hiatus for the next week or so (going on a cruise!) but I’ll hopefully be back with some nice photos to share with you! As for, I’ll be incorporating more (amateur)photography this summer as I try to fumble and practice with the new cam, so bare with me! I will also be adding more cultural posts as that is something that is very near and dear to my heart.




Until next time, my habibis! ❤



The 4 things we do whilst studying for finals. Ah, what a bittersweet week. The Final Stretch. How can summer seem so close, yet so far away at the same time?

Between all this chaos, I wanted to take the time to remind my college readers: You’re almost there!! Give it your all. And if you’re just having a stressful week in general, this will apply to you as well.

I have compiled the 3 most important things to remember during this time of year to keep yourself sane:

1. BREATHE. It is going to be OK. Don’t push yourself to the point of frustration and no return. This will exhaust you as the week goes on. Instead, pace yourself, and remain calm.

2. Take it one day at a time. Yes, sometimes I find myself putting studying off by just reminding myself how much studying I have to get done. This automatically freaks me out and kickstarts a cycle of procrastination. But I’ve found out that by breaking things up- home works, sample exams, and reading the text, things look a little less intimidating and become easier to tackle! However, everyone has their preferred method of revising, so if this doesn’t necessarily work for you, find a routine and stick to it till the end!

Wise words from the man himself

Wise words from the man himself

3. Have a pre-study ritual!I promise you, this works. For example, I will usually get into some comfy clothes, make myself some tea, gather everything I may need to go to town on this study sesh so that I dont need to get up 100 times, and eliminate distractions. If I am at home, I will usually take a break every half hour for 10 mins to grab a snack, relax, and refocus. Create a routine that will help you get into the study mood by doing things that motivate you and make you feel better.

I hope this helps! Let me know of some effective studying tips, I could use a few! Good luck on finals week. May the curve be ever in your favor 😉

Bisous ❤


Refresh, Re-evaluate, Reset

Happy Monday friends! ❤

I hope you had an overall successful week last week and are ready to tackle this one!

Sooo…for today's Motivation Monday, I have a challenge for you!
I want you to pick a day out of the week, perhaps a day where you have some time on your hands (a weekend?) and choose that day from here on out to Refresh, Re-evaluate, and go into Reset mode for the upcoming week. Make that day a regular happening in the week.

What do I mean by Refresh, Re-evaluate, Reset?

Refresh: Take the time to do something that will refresh your mind, it can be to read a book you’ve been keeping up with, or to put some effort into one of your hobbies. Doing something you like and something that is personal (and not because you have to) will have you feeling refreshed for sure!

Re-evaulate: Take a look back on the past week, see if you’ve accomplished your objectives/goals that you had previously set out to achieve. Take some time to reflect on what you took away from the previous week and if there was anything you could have done differently. Then, make a set of objectives/goals for next week that you wish to accomplish. Of course, this all does not have to be mechanical. Everyone has their own style in getting things done and planning out their week. This is merely just an “inspirational framework”, if you will.

Reset: After your goals are set, and time for reflection has been made, your mind will automatically go into a “reset mode” for the week. For example, my day is Sunday. I call my Sundays “Reset mode Sunday.” It’s the day where I do some reading, plan out my next week using my planner, finish some last minute assignments, and spend time with my loved ones. At the end of the day, I get this “reset mode” feeling, where I am ready (not dreading) to tackle the upcoming week and make the most out of it.

Yes you do!

Yes you do!

Hope this helps! Let me know if you practice similar methods, I would love to hear it!



Rich Life

And no, I do not mean money-wise rich, ya big sillies!

For this motivation Monday segment, I want you to take some time to reflect on what it means for you to live a rich life. What do you want it to mean for you?

Although having money and being that kind of “rich” doesn’t buy happiness, it sure as hell makes it a whole lot easier to be happy, and I understand that. But aside from that, having a rich life can mean many things, depending on the type of person that you are.



For example, having a rich life for me means to have as many adventures, experiences, ups and downs as I can. It doesn’t necessarily correlate with good things only. It simply means living life prepared to feel a full spectrum of emotions. And that takes a lot of courage. You don’t have to travel the world in 80 days or make millions of dollars to experience these things. Depending on who you are, it can be something as small as going to the sale rack at Zara and finding that top (in your size, bam!) you’ve always wanted to buy but was out of your price range. It could also be a breakup. Or you could have went on a summer Euro trip. The feels that come along with those experiences trigger certain emotions that make living life just a little but fuller. If we always had good times then these experiences would be worthless and meaningless to us. If you experience bad times, then when the good eventually comes along, you’ll automatically appreciate it more and know how valuable these feelings are. This is what it means to live a rich life for me.

A life full of experiences is worth SO much more than sitting in a million dollar house with none at all. I’ve had so many ups, downs, and changes in my life but as I look back, I’m realizing how much I learned and am still learning along the way. I look forward to this roller coaster called life and I’m ready to take on the next big thing!

So tell me, what’s your definition of a Rich Life?



The Ultimate Boss Ass B*tch Guide

What I’m about to say is partly for laughs, partly serious. I assume you’ll be able to tell what I mean, when I mean it!

In this post, I will be providing you with the low down on what it means to be a B.A.B and what it takes become one. I myself try to follow these guidelines as best as I can. They not only classify you as a B.A.B but they also help you practice what are considered to be honorable qualities in our society. They also help you become a more refined version of yourself.

Alas, I have put together a quick guide on the essentials of being a B.A.B.
Being a B.A.B is not just an attitude, it’s a lifestyle. To become a B.A.B, you will need to practice 3 fundamental things:

1. A “no bullsh*t/zero tolerance attitude.” (be careful to not cross the line with being a bitch though)

2. A “kill them with kindness” motive.

3. A classy and graceful demeanor. You also know what you want and you don’t care what people think about it/you. A triple threat right there.

21st birthday present from the roomie. Perfect morning inspiration mug

21st birthday present from the roomie. Perfect morning inspiration mug

Of course, these are just the basics, but you gotta start somewhere, right? These are the tools you will need to start this transformation. How often you practice them will determine your true B.A.B status. Let’s get down and dirty:

1) Having a “no bullshit/zero tolerance attitude” does not necessarily translate into you being a bitchy, mean person. It’s actually encouraged to refrain from doing so (see #3). It simply means that you will not put up with people’s BS, their fake-nice attitude, and you will most certainly not engage in backstabbing activities with these type of people. Hence the saying “a person who talks about people to you, will talk to those same people ABOUT you”?
Yes. So please remove yourself from these situations and refrain from digging yourself into a hole you can’t get out of. There is obviously a difference between friendly banter with your friends and poking fun at each other. I’m talking nasty and grimy gossip, back stabbing, rumor spreading, shit talking type of people. That has got to go.

2) A “Kill them with Kindness” motive is also related to #1. Actually, they’re all related to each other. This mostly plays with how you handle certain situations and certain types of people. Dealing with confrontations in a civil way is of utmost importance. Whether it be in the workplace, college, school, or home. If you come across people who behave towards you in a negative manner, retaliating and stooping down to their level will make you look bad in the long run. A B.A.B should always behave in a civil manner, even if the feels are not reciprocated. That’s actually when you become stronger. You become in full control of yourself and you truly embody a Boss Ass Bitch. At that point, give yourself a round of applause, a pat on the back, and get yourself a drink. Being nice to nasty people is easier said than done. Your “haters” are the ones who you should be the nicest to even though you’d rather be socking them in the face. Don’t forget to maintain a balance and not turn this into being fake and pretentious. Just be a civil, genuine you. People will be like “damn that’s a nice ass, genuine person. What a boss ass bitch.”

3) Be classy. Always. Being classy and handling things with grace is what ties everything together with a bow AND puts the cherry on top of being a B.A.B. Having respect for yourself will almost demand respect from people around you. But you probably already know that. You gotta have your own style, know what you want, and how to get it. And even if you don’t know what you want; own it. Fake it till you make it. Pretend like you have it in order to get it, that’s what a true B.A.B will do. Now I’m not telling you to pretend you’re rich because that’s whats going to make you rich; I mean you have to exude a type of confidence that pertains to your personality. What I’m trying to say is, having class can go a long way.

As you can see above, all these rules require a balance. Too much of something can go against you.

“Good things happen to people who hustle” and B.A.B are definitely hustlers. Classy Hustlers.

With that being said, these are the tools you will need that will get you on your way to becoming a Boss Ass Bitch. Other things might include; being independent (emotionally and/or financially), hard-working, and humble. These things will come naturally as you start practicing the 3 rules I mentioned above.

Combine the 3 rules, add on your personality, flare, and style and congratulate yourself. You’ve become an elite member of the Boss Ass Bitch community.

Questions?Comments? Share below!



When Good Things Happen

Hello lovelies!

I apologize for not posting as often as I usually do this week. But good things have been happening!

This Life-Cleanse has been really kicking ass, and not just physically, but work-wise, college-wise, and mentally, its been very rewarding.

I do not want to reveal too much just yet, not until everything is solidified. But I will definitely keep you posted!

In the meantime, I have been thinking about something; when good things happen, is it because of your determination, luck, or faith? Perhaps it can be a combo of all 3 but I feel kind of strange to give myself so much credit without thinking that something such as luck played a big role in everything. Your feedback would be appreciated.

On another note, I have decided to officially launch within the next week! By “Officially launch” I mean telling my friends and family about this. This has been a personal project for me for quite some time and I find it ironic how “personal” to me means sharing this blog with the rest of the world and not the people in my life. I feel a little nervous but also excited!

By sharing this with friends and family, I am also committing myself to writing more and investing more time and energy into This makes me feel equally anxious and happy.

These upcoming weeks will be quite busy as i try to balance work, classes, student organization matters and attempt to have a social life. Usually this will have me feeling overwhelmed but I recently bought a new planner and there’s just something about a new planner that makes me feel super refreshed and ready to take on life. Is that strange?

To combat my stress I also workout on a regular basis, which proves to be very helpful for you physically of course, and mentally.

What do you do to deal with daily stress?

Until next time!



Fake It Till You Feel It

Mindy Kaling knows everything

Mindy Kaling knows everything

You know when you wake up to one of those days where you’re just dreading to even get out of bed? Well I’m having one of those days today. I have been pretty stressed out with upcoming exams, work, and just college stuff that needs to be taken care of.

I recently read somewhere that if you are feeling crummy or stressed, you should kind of force yourself to be happy (I know, it sounds weird) and then eventually you will feel happy. I thought this would be the perfect day to put this theory into practice for the Motivation Monday Challenge.

A “Fake it till you feel it” attitude shall be in order today.

Even though I have so much to do today (this week in general), I will try to approach it with a positive attitude, instead of dreadful one. This is easier said than done of course. Even right now I am having a hard time attempting it!
But I will do it, and for those of you who are experiencing a day like mine, let’s do this together. 🙂

I hope you have a wonderful, positive Fake-it-till-you-feel-it day!
I know I will.



Classy, Versatile, and Insightful

“Classy,Versatile, and Insightful.”

Those are the three words that I would like people to use when describing me.

For the first motivational Monday segment, I wanted to inspire you to think of three words that YOU want people to use when describing you. These words can be things you are striving to be, or things you already believe that you are.

To dive deeper, think of three words that you DON’T want people to use when describing you as well.

Three things that I do not want people to use when they describe me?

“Insincere, cynical, and malicious.”

Share your thoughts below on what your favorable/unfavorable words are!

And don’t forget, Mondays are YOUR days. 😉